What’s Wrong with Millennials? A Millennial Gives a Call to Action

Unreached Millennials

What is wrong with Millennials?

Millennials

I found an excellent video discussing what’s wrong with Millennials. The video by Alexis Bloomer entitled “Dear Elders, I’m sorry” went viral on YouTube.  A Millennial herself, Alexis believes her generation is entitled, disrespectful, unproductive, and lazy — to name just a few of the problems she says are common among young people aged 18-35.

A call to action

Of course, it is wrong to label an entire group of people with any description because there is always variation in any group.  Even so, many people have felt that Alexis Bloomer’s analysis of her own generation has some validity.  Most importantly, at the core of her video, Alexis makes a strong call to action for her generation to show kind, respectful, and productive behavior.  Thanks for your timely and sincere words, Alexis.

The missing motivation

The issue Alexis doesn’t go into is how this behavior can become a part of a person’s life.    Alexis seems to have been blessed with good parenting.  It is true that good upbringing can account for some good behavior for those who experienced it. However, learned behaviors only go so far without the personal peace, security, and a desire to do right that comes from deep within a person.  Many people of all generations can speak of the inner change that came into their lives through embracing the good news of  forgiveness and eternal life in Jesus.  Perhaps Alexis didn’t have the time to include this key inner motivation.  Even so, I personally find this call to action refreshing and inspiring.   What do you think?

The Importance of Forgiveness

The Importance of Forgiveness

Importance of forgiveness
Importance of forgiveness

It is hard to overstate the importance of forgiveness. Have you ever had trouble forgiving someone?  Almost everyone has had the experience of being hurt so badly that they held a grudge for years after the event.  Many people know that forgiving the person who hurt them is the right thing to do. But knowing what is right and actually doing it are different things.

A helpful video

For those who need a bit of clarification about the concept of forgiveness, a short video I came across recently explains the three main types of forgiveness and their applications.  The forgiveness types are exoneration, forbearance, and release. Though the Bible doesn’t use these exact terms, I believe the points made in this Prager University video are consistent with what scripture has to say about the nature and blessings of forgiveness.  I hope you find it helpful.  Michael Bogart

 

What to do when you have been wronged?

Everybody has a problem with someone sometime. Maybe a friend has wronged you by saying something negative about you in your presence or behind your back. Maybe you feel you have been cheated in business, or treated unfairly in some way by a neighbor or a family member.  Inside you may experience feelings of frustration, and even anger.  You may even feel a desire to retaliate, but deep inside you know that retaliation solves nothing. What should you do?

Common Errors

First let’s look at a couple of common approaches.  Some people suffer in silence. Instead of doing anything, they just simmer in their frustration.  Using this approach, unresolved frustration can become bitterness in a very short time.  If this is what you are experiencing, your silence is only hurting yourself.

Clearly, there may be situations when taking no action is the best way to handle things. For instance, Proverbs 19:11 says, “A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is his glory to overlook an offense.” If you can simply forgive and forget a wrong from the very beginning, it is to your credit and is sometimes the best way to prevent further hurt.

Another approach is to complain to a third party.  Proverbs 17:9 speaks to this course of action: “He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.”  It is rarely, if ever, a good thing to involve another person in a matter that doesn’t directly concern them.  It can damage important relationships.  Though you may feel good sharing your frustration with someone who is sympathetic, it probably will do you no good in the long run.  People often justify involving other people because they feel need for someone to talk to.  Once again, there may indeed be situations in which godly advice is required. However, when a third party is brought in only to bolster your own side of things and share your anger,  it is unproductive.

God’s Way: Reconciliation

So, neither suffering in silence nor complaining are effective ways to solve conflicts.  OK.  What’s left?   In Matthew 18:15, Jesus gave God’s perspective on dealing with anger and hurt: “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.”  In other words, Jesus teaches us to go directly to the person we are offended by as soon as possible in order to work out reconciliation. This is God’s way, and it achieves some wonderful results. For instance:

  • It prevents a relatively small conflict from developing into serious anger and animosity.
  • It prevents other people from getting caught up in a problem that really doesn’t concern them.
  • It may lay the foundation for a new relationship with the person who has offended you.
  • It results in a clear conscience on your part for having tried to do what is right, and can bring real inner peace until your own conscience is clear.

Your Attitude

As long as we’re making lists, here is what the Bible says about how you should interact with the person you experience conflict with:

  • Go to them in humility. Remember, there may be a point of view in the situation that you haven’t considered.
  • Go determined to seek true justice. If you are even partly wrong, admit it and seek forgiveness. If restitution needs to be made, do your best to make it.
  • Go in love. That is, never go to the person with the idea of humiliating them. Seek the peace and welfare of all concerned.

One more issue remains to be mentioned: What if your efforts are not well received? If you have truly made an effort to do what is right and seek peace with this person, then reconciliation becomes their problem. You cannot force them either to forgive you or to admit their own wrong. Pray for them and continue to be open should circumstances and attitudes change. You will have one very precious thing, however: the deep satisfaction that comes from having done things God’s way!