Why Men Hate to go to Church

Man bored in church
Man bored in church
Man bored in church

Why men hate church is a key issue for our times.  Many serious Christians have wondered why relatively fewer men than women are regular churchgoers.  I came across a video recently that features a conversation with Murrow, author of the best selling book, Why Men Hate Church.

So, why do men hate church?

In the conversation, Murrow says that the reason men are staying away from Church is that the Church has been on a feminizing path for the past couple of generations.  By feminizing, Murrow means that many churches have emphasized making choices that feature safety, a lowering of moral and behavioral standards, and a style of worship that plays on emotional responses to God.  These types of choices tend to appeal more to women than to men.  These choices may account for why the percentage of church goers tend to be between 60-70%.   Bottom line: much in a typical church service and a typical church weekly program doesn’t touch men in the significant areas of their lives.

Speaking feminine

It is almost as if many churches have chosen to speak feminine.  In other words that much of what the church says is in a language that women understand and respond to, but that men find confusing and unappealing.  “I’m falling in love with Jesus more each day.” is a theme of some of the popular worship music churches use in worship.  I can personally testify to the confusion of standing for worship in a church service and being embarrassed as words like that flashed up onto the screen.  Jesus the strong captain I can relate to.  I can understand Jesus the courageous sacrifice.  Jesus the King of Kings I find inspiring.  But Jesus the love of my life?  Sorry, no.  Feminine language is often a turnoff to men, who otherwise might be drawn to Jesus.  After all, Jesus had little trouble attracting male followers to his ministry.  Why should the 21st century be any different?

Speaking human

I am not saying that churches need to speak masculine rather than feminine. There is much in the Bible that appeals directly to women.  Maybe it would be better if churches just spoke human.  Speak on topics and issues and in a way that both men and women understand.  Jesus did speak about virgins waiting for the bridegroom and women losing valuable coins.  But he also spoke about farming, fishing, and fathers–concepts men could relate to.  It is time men led the way in rediscovering masculine spirituality.


Intermediate Bible Quiz

Bible information
Intermediate Bible Quiz
Intermediate Bible Quiz

This 35-point intermediate Bible quiz is designed to measure your knowledge of the key people and facts in Bible’s storyline and motivate you to dig deeper into the Bible itself.

Basic Information

The Bible commonly used by Protestants contains a total of (1) ______ books. It is divided into two main sections: the (2) _______ _____________________ and the (3) _______ _______________________. The first section was written mainly in the ancient (4) _________________ language; the second section was written in the (5) ______________ language of the First Century.

 Bible People and Storyline

The book of Genesis describes the first humans as living in a garden named (6) __________. There they fell into (7) ________ by eating forbidden fruit. To prevent the complete corruption of the human race, God later sent a devastating flood while saving a remnant under the leadership of (8) __________. Later, the restored human race rebelled against God again by building the Tower of (9) ___________. After this, God called a man named (10) _________________ to begin a line of chosen people who would represent him to the rest of the world. The great-grandson of this man was sold into Egyptian slavery by his brothers. His name was (11) _________________.

After several generations of slavery, the descendants of this former slave and his brothers became known as the nation of (12) ______________. They were delivered from their slavery under a lawgiver named (13) ____________. Although God promised them the land then known as (14) _______________ in which to establish themselves, they showed a lack of faith and many of them died in the wilderness. After forty years of wandering, God raised up a man called (15) _____________ to lead them into this Promised Land.

In this new land, the nation was at first ruled by servants of God called                           (16) ____________, one of whom was a woman named Deborah. Later the nation was ruled by a series of (17) ___________, the best known of which was David. When this line of rulers became foolish and disobedient to God, he divided the nation in two, with the northern capitol in Samaria while the south had its capitol in (18) _______________. Though they were warned to cease worshipping idols and devote themselves to the true God, the people continued to disobey, with the southern kingdom eventually suffering exile in (19) ______________. A book of 150 musical poems, some of which were written during this time, was used by God’s people in worship. We know this collection as the book of (20) _______________. Though called to represent him in the world, God’s people often needed correction by men and women speaking on God’s behalf. These people were called (21) _______________.

The second main section of the Bible begins with the life and ministry of                (22) _____________. He was incarnated in the womb of a virgin named (23) _____________ and born in the city of (24) __________________. He performed many (25) _____________ to validate his claims of being the Son of God. After being accused of blasphemy, he was condemned and put to death by the cruel method of (26) ____________________. After (27) _____________ days in the tomb, he rose from the dead. The book of (28) __________ is the history of the early Christians. They formed a new people of God, known as the (29) _________________. The basic Christian message, called the (30) _____________ is the good news that, though people are guilty before God, anyone may be forgiven and reconciled to God through faith in God’s Son.

The associate of the Lord and main spokesman for the earliest Christians had been a simple fisherman. His name was (31) ____________. The majority of the letters in the second section of the Bible were written by one man: the Apostle (32) _____________. Other letters were written by various Christian leaders. One of these letters makes it clear that faith without works is dead. It was written by (33) _______________, who was probably a brother of the Lord. Several other letters were written by the Apostle (34) ____________, who was especially close to the Lord during his lifetime. The book of (35) __________________ fittingly climaxes the Bible, closing with the promise of the Lord’s return and the establishment of his Kingdom on earth.

How did you do? You can access the answers in a separate blog–Intermediate Bible Quiz–Answer Key.  A good grasp of the main facts and themes of the Bible is a great foundation on which to build an unshakeable faith!